“Gateway! I want to go back (or fast forward)!” Gateway, threshold, portal: “passages into or out of a place or condition”(1) “the point at which something starts to happen or change”(2), sometimes magical, time travel, intergalactic. There’s a part of me that wishes I were back in Bali at the beginning of my 2014 three month Asia Pacific journey, pictured here at the gateway to my hotel room, rather than back in Kansas in the middle of a pandemic and global upheaval. But if I were back in Bali, I would be missing time with my grandbaby and toddler, my current clients, local friends and family.
There’s a part of you that might wish you could be taken back or fast forward through these uncertain, turbulent times. When systems: organizations, teams, families, communities, cultures, societies break open, as we are now, they can most easily achieve transformation. It is an exciting time to be a leadership, team and mentor coach, partnering with clients for transformation.
“Balancing Hope/Fear Polarity: Now and Into the Future” was the title of a panel I served on last week. You can approach gateways with hope and/or fear, really the flip sides of the same coin, or the ends of a pole or continuum. It is all about your perspective! Do you believe there may be positive change on the other side of the gateway? We can adapt a both/and approach rather than either/or. We can discover the gifts in each, even with a negative reaction to one. As you will read below of my Asia Pacific gateways experience, I used one of my favorite coaching questions to be at choice about whether I want to approach a gateway with fear (worry) or hope (excitement).
From my 2014 blog: In Bali, gateways are very important visually and symbolically, frequently with guardians to protect the entrance. One week into my 3 month Asia Pacific journey, I still experience being at initial gateways. This first image is the doorway to our hotel room at the Paradiso (of course!) in Kuta, Bali.
“What is the part of you that will move you forward?” the late, brilliant neuroscientist coach Joan King asked me last fall, now one of my favorite coaching questions, focusing our brains on possibilities. It is the adventurous part of me, the child who ran ahead on family vacations to scout out and ran back to report on what lay ahead.
I choose to tap into that part of me today and practice centering, one of my speaking topics, rather than fall into my “long line of worriers” heritage. I recognize the gift of family worrying, contributing to our survival, while choosing when to let go and “enjoy the ride” rather than holding back. My courageous daughter Amelia and I have been visiting temples and today she has challenged me to step out into that adventurous place and take a two day trip to Mt. Bromo on Java which includes a round trip ferry! (update note: this was 2014, shortly after the Korean ferry disaster, with over 300 dead or missing; some of my trip’s flights were on Air Malaysia, with one plane shot down down and another disappeared) The centering exercise and prayer I’ve been practicing for years contributes to a sense of peace through experiencing the sense I am not alone as well as my strengths and experiences that have taken me to this place in my life and will be with me as I move forward. In this case, that includes my first, solo, trip to Asia Pacific to teach classes I had not taught before, for a new-to-me University.
How are you stepping through gateways and what part of you are accessing to do so? Apply for an Unlock All Potential strategy session.
How can you use appropriate fear to assess where you, your system, your business, your finances are now as well as how can you tap into your own childlike excitement of transformation and new that awaits us on the other side of the gateways?
To our potential, prosperity and peace-we are in this together!
Thanks and see you next week,
Marilyn O’Hearne, MSW, MCC, LLC
CQ Leadership, Team and Mentor Coaching; Coaching Supervision
#Unlockallpotential so all can live in prosperity and peace
1. A four step process for getting through what can be experienced as frightening transitions can be found in Don’t Let Transitions Scare You
2. Expanding perspectives: From Win/Lose to Win/Win: How to Recover Hope
First published July 21, 2014
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